What to do when you’re no longer happy with your job…

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I bet everybody has, in one way or another, felt unhappy with his/her job. In my 11 years in the corporate world, I have recently come up with just three rules when caught in this “I-am-not-happy-with-my-job-anymore” situation.

1.     Don’t Quit, Suck It Up. We sometimes want to quit because we are not happy with changes in the company, or with the people we work with, or with our salaries, or with our workplace, or with anything, lastly, with our boss. If these are things or reasons that are unlikely to be changed, then there’s nothing you can do but to suck it up. If quitting is not your option, and you don’t want to do anything, just suck it up. My boss told me this, and I tell my staff the same thing: “There are things that our boss doesn’t want to do, things that I don’t want to do, and things you don’t want to do, but we gotta do what we gotta do if the business requires it.”

2.     Don’t Quit, Change Your Attitude. If you are the person who is more positive about things, has an open mind, and is more accepting, then instead of sulking and whining about how unhappy you are with your job, then change your attitude! Always look for the brighter side aka the “silver lining” of everything that’s happening around you. If the company decides to not give you any pay rises for the year, think about… maybe, the rise will be higher next year!

3.     Don’t Quit, Voice Out! Some people are more assertive than others, and this is where open and honest communications come in. With much determination, diplomacy, and tact, take your issues up with whoever/whatever is bothering you or making you unhappy. If you feel that your boss is micro-managing you, yet you love your job, and you want to change things, then talk to your boss! Believe, this has helped me a lot in the last three years I’ve worked with my boss. I got myself used to saying things like, “May I say something, please? I think…” or, “Please hear me out…” These words are very powerful, they make your boss step back a bit and then look at things from a different perspective.

4.     Quit. So this is the end. If you are not capable of doing the three items above and your job is draining the life and happiness out of you, then, by all means, “let it go, let it go!” Aside from making yourself miserable, you are, most probably, also radiating your negativity to the rest of the workplace, and this is not a good thing. Just quit altogether and look for a job that will truly make you happy.

Legit online job - Scribie

If you're looking for a part time job online, and a legit one, quote me on this... "Go for Scribie." Just look at the links I have provided here in my blog and click it! This all started when a cousin of mine, fresh out of school, jobless, but with a kid, asked me to click on that link, which at first, I thought to be bogus. I didn't really believe that my cousin would have found something like that. He was asking me to be part of the site's referral program, where, if I was accepted into the job, he gets a 5% referral commission for every successful applicant. I ignored it for some time, and then, I heard his mom talking about it one day. I then decided to go for it. I registered, and was asked to wait for an email for the test proper. Oh my, to my surprise, I did receive an email that said, I had to wait for 400+ days to get tested because there were so many applicants. Boom - I lost my faith right there. Probably a few weeks after, I received another letter saying that I was up for the test. There were 10 files in my queue. All you had to do is transcribe a six minute file, make sure your grade is satisfactory/passing and then you are hired! It took me up to the sixth try to submit a "worthy" file. (You have the chance to cancel a file that you think you won't be able to transcribe correctly, but you get only ten tries. Each attempt is considered a try.) Anyway, I passed! I won't drill down further into the mechanics because I would like you to read the guidelines on the website thoroughly. Haha. All I can say is that this is legit, and it's worth a try. Here are some screenies for proof:

 1. Here is how my profile looks like. (I took my name out, of course!)

 
 2. Here is a summary of my Performance for the last 30 days:

3. Here is a summary of my earnings:

 

 4. And here is the breakdown:


 

 If you have questions, just leave a comment and I will get back to you as fast as soon as I get online again. There are so many details to share about this, but at this time, I just really want to sleep. :-) 'Till tomorrow!

did i just lose my self-confidence?

This afternoon I was talking to my boss, and during the discussion, I did bring up the topic of me feeling unsure of doing my job because it always turns out either wrong or something he did not expect to have. Being his normal self, he went on explaining how things should be done, how we should work together, how I can solve that problem of always being "unsure" of what I am doing. He told me to keep on verifying, to always revisit, to always talk to him. And now, being my usual self, I just said "yes" to everything he said. At that time though, it did occur to me that maybe, I was just really being hard-headed, and that perhaps, that is indeed the right thing to do. I have been waiting for Ed now, all evening, and I guess this gave me time to ponder on what have transpired during the day. One thing that hit me most is... Did I just lose my self-confidence? Since I said "yes" to every single thing he told me, does that mean now that every move I make is now "unsure" and needs to be verified by him? I just realised that what he did is rob me off the confidence. When will I ever feel confident of myself? When will I ever feel confident that what I am doing is right? It strikes me that I have worked so hard to get to where I am now, as a manager, and it feels like I was just pulled ten steps behind. I wish people could read my blog and I wish for a healthy discussion and sharing of ideas that could give me a different perspective of things. It is actually a good exercise having discussions like these with people I don't know, not having to worry about prejudiced opinions/biases. Oh well, I hope my husband comes soon to pick me up from the office, or else, more doubts will come into my playful brain and mess me up once more. Photo credits: http://badcreditcarfinanceonline.co.uk/getting-car-finance-confused/